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Wednesday, May 31, 2006

Relationships, it is a complex matter that involves 2 people. How do you define relationship? Do you and your partner needs to have a suitable character, then you can be together, or you just have to accept them for who they are?

Sometimes people ends their relationship even though they still love that person very much, why is that so? is it because they have grown tired of the person? maybe because they have a problem in between them, that has been going on and on for so long.

I guess the key to a successful relationship will be;

• Trust - a important factor in a relationship, cause if there is no trust, the relationship will collaspe, that is 100%. for e.g - a guy who loves his spouse so much, however, he doesn't really trust her. what is gonna happen? he will become over-suspicious, possessive, thinking that his spouse is doing something behind his back everytime she is out of his sight. Starts a quarrel with a topic which was never there in the first place.

• Communication - is also an important factor. When there is a arguement, most of the time, couples will be yelling and screaming at each other at the top of their voice, does this achieve anything, the answer is no. when problem arise, why don't people just take a step back and look at the whole picture? look at the problem from mulitple points. As the saying goes it takes 2 hands to clap, so this will not work if 1 party is willing to talk while the other doesn't.

• Listen and change - after talking, the most sensible thing to do is to think about what has gone wrong. what does your spouse wants from you? is there anything that you did and she doesn't like it? while talking listen and try to change bit by bit. and not by changing for like 1 or 2 days... then it is back to normal again. This will not work, in fact, your other half is gonna get so tired of you doing the same old thing again, and when you realised it, and wanna talk about it, most likely the other half has already given up hope in you changing.

• Cherish your other half - ok this part is for guys mainly, gals, your other half is there for you to pamper them, to be their listening ears, be there when they need you. Even if it is the tinest of things, stop whatever you are doing and go listen to them. It is the thought that counts, it is the little things that counts. Most guys, once they have successfully gotten the girl of their dreams, they Will let up, this is a mistake which i myself have done so many time wrong. LOL
  

For a successful relationship, both parties have to give and take at the same time, it is hard for people to just take and not give, this way you will just wear your other half down. and Love will turn into anger, anger into resentment and lastly and inevitably, the break up.

although all this points are easy, like i said it takes 2 hands to clap. so to all the couples out there, cherish your other half, pick up your mobiles, your home phones, send a text mesaage to your other halves and just tell them the 3 simple words " I love You "

Mood: mixed - feeling kinda sucky.



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